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The Reluctant Non-Stepmother .... ©2002 Deborah Henson-Conant |
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From
Reluctant Non-Stepmother to Family Music Director Heres the equation as I learned it when I was about five: Family + Time Together = Music. Everyone sang, and youd know who was coming by the accompanying repertoire. Patriotic Songs = Dad. Folk Songs = Grandmother #1. Yiddish humming = Grandmother #2. And my mother yikes! My mother sang EVERYTHING from English folk songs to the Blues to Opera! There was no such thing as background music for my mother. According to her, the underlying motivation of the entire Muzak industry was to provide her with orchestral accompinament while shopping. And she did not sing discreetly. My mother was a Grocery Store Diva. I spent many a shopping excursion trying to pretend I was NOT with the woman belting out Misty in the frozen food aisle. Was this embarrassing? Yes. Do I do it now, myself? I refuse to answer on the grounds it may incriminate me (la-la-la). When I was seven my mom taught me to play the ukulele. And at 10, she showed me how to read jazz charts on the piano. By 13 I was able to accompany her on popular tunes like Girl from Ipanema and you guessed it Misty. Obviously this had been her grand plan all along. Whatever
her ulterior motive, it solidified music as my first language and as the
solid ground of family relations. Then one day, my friend Mercedes Emails me about her family rehearsals and suddenly a light bulb goes on in my head. Ha! I think, Thats my role! Im the family music director! So I institute Sunday night rehearsals and our Au Pair aptly names the group Half-a-Dozen-Monkeys. We perform for grandparents and guests, and it feels almost like home to me. But then the year is over; we start seeing the kids only every other weekend and the Au Pair returns to Germany. The kids are learning musical instruments in school, so theyre not as interested in family rehearsals. And then we move, and we cant get even the piano up the stairs into our family room. It feels like our music days are over. Then one day, I get an idea. I write out a little blues arrangement that we can all play together: Leah (age 11) on flute, Ben (age 7) on drums, Zoe (age 14) on piano, Jonathan, my boyfriend, on tuba and me on violin (I cant really play it, but the kids are new at their instruments, too, so its a chance for me to pick up an instrument Ive always wanted to play). As bad as we sound, you can still kind of tell were playing the blues. I arrange a couple more tunes and we have fun practicing together. Sometimes, when our windows are open, people stop in the street below and clap. So this summer comes and the kids are going to stay with us for a month, and we pull together all our tunes and we practice and suddenly we realize: we have a Repertoire! We have nearly 4 tunes we can kind of play as a family! And we decide that, since we live near a bike path, why not set up our band out under the tree, play music and sell lemonade? So we do. And the kids make money! So I arrange some MORE tunes, and we make MORE lemonade, and this time we put up a poster. And even more people buy lemonade and clap, and sing along and hold our music when the wind blows. I head down to the Cambridge Arts Council to buy the family Street Performers Licenses (Harvard Square here we come!) and while Im buying them, Jane Beal, the community arts director there, asks me if Ill be on their Summer in the City family concert series. I was planning on taking the summer off to finish an album, but a sudden thought comes to me: Can the kids play, too? I ask. And Jane says Uh well .. sure! So
this Wednesday, our family band has its first ever public appearance (aside
from the Lemonade Concerts, of course) at 7:00 pm in Raymond Park (Cambridge)
as part of the Summer in the City series. |